This entry (part 1 of 2) is about unrealistic expectations we impose on the role our spouses are supposed to play in our relationship.
We all have a fantasized, idealized version of the human being we want to spend the rest of our life with. There is nothing wrong with that, and it is even healthy. We are all entitled to have the image of our perfect partner in all dimensions of life. We all deserve to be happy with them. And as we forge our way through the ups and downs of life, it is perfectly fine for us all to think about what kind of partner we need by our side, to complement and complete us. We should all have some idea of what we want and need in life, and what our standards are. But this can quickly slip into very unrealistic expectations to which we adhere too rigidly, and which we try to impose on ourselves and on them.