Rollo Tomassi (2013). The Rational Male

Over the past year, I started looking more in-depth into the Men’s movement, the Men’s Rights Movement, the Manosphere, the MGTOW — or Men Going Their Own Way — movement… because of their influence on the youth of our community.

I will be posting some of the works I read in this regard. I have yet to start drafting my take on the Men’s Movement in all of its variants, but I intend to eventually. These entries will simply be a placeholder for my own reminder.

The present entry is for Rollo Tomassi’s The Rational Male.

Neil Strauss (2005). The Game – Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

Over the past year, I started looking more in-depth into the Men’s movement, the Men’s Rights Movement, the Manosphere, the MGTOW — or Men Going Their Own Way — movement… because of their influence on the youth of our community.

I will be posting some of the works I read in this regard, with a couple of bullets about each. I have yet to start drafting my take on the Men’s Movement in its variants and issues, but I intend to once I get over some of the other important projects I’m currently working on. In other words these entries will simply be a placeholder for my own reminder.

This entry is about a book called The Game, by the man who became the most popular name in the world of pickup artistry, Neil Strauss.

N. Vincent (2006) Self-Made Man: One Woman’s Year Disguised as a Man – Part II

This is the second part to a previous entry that can be found here. Please read it first before continuing in this part.

N. Vincent (2006) Self-Made Man: One Woman’s Year Disguised as a Man – Part I

This book tells the story of a woman, Norah Vincent, who decided to disguise herself and live her life as a man for one year. In this entry I highlight some of the passages about which I had much to say…

This Guy’s relationship tips: General Characteristics of the Husband

I was recently asked to give a lecture, or a series of lectures, on the topic of marital issues in our communities. So the notes I prepared were organized to present the issues one may encounter before getting married first, such as the characteristics to look for in the husband and the wife; celibacy; getting to know the spouse before the marriage, etc. And then address issues encountered once married.

I thought that I would share these notes on this blog, as they may perhaps be of interest to some readers… The following is a first entry in a series of entries on the topic of Introduction to Islamic Teachings on Marital Issues: the general characteristics of the husband.

Good to know about your Muslim friend: physical contact between genders

Physical contact between members of the opposite gender in Islam

This is a 6th entry in the series of Things that are good to know about your Muslim friend. Make sure to read the first five entries if you missed them, and which had to do with:

• Dancing and music
• Christmas and other celebrations
• Purity and impurity in Islam
• fasting
• prayer

This guy’s relationship tips: don’t expect too much (part 2 of 2)

This entry (part 2 of 2) is about unrealistic expectations we impose on the role our spouses are supposed to play in our relationship…

In Part 1 of this entry, we covered the following roles we expect our spouses to step into automatically once we are in a relationship:

• religious and spiritual leader;
• psychotherapist;
• best friend;
• business partner;
• intellectual stimulator;
• personal life coach; and
• romantic lover.

There are a few more to cover…

This guy’s relationship tips: don’t expect too much (part 1 of 2)

This entry (part 1 of 2) is about unrealistic expectations we impose on the role our spouses are supposed to play in our relationship.

We all have a fantasized, idealized version of the human being we want to spend the rest of our life with. There is nothing wrong with that, and it is even healthy. We are all entitled to have the image of our perfect partner in all dimensions of life. We all deserve to be happy with them. And as we forge our way through the ups and downs of life, it is perfectly fine for us all to think about what kind of partner we need by our side, to complement and complete us. We should all have some idea of what we want and need in life, and what our standards are. But this can quickly slip into very unrealistic expectations to which we adhere too rigidly, and which we try to impose on ourselves and on them.

This guy’s relationship tips: don’t let anything outside of you two dictate your relationship (part 2 of 2)

This specific entry (part 2 of 2) is about letting one’s cultural, social, and familial environments dictate, directly or indirectly their spousal relationship. If you’re not ready to examine the sources of your thinking about your spousal relationship, then don’t bother wasting both of our times…

This guy’s relationship tips: don’t let anything outside of you two dictate your relationship (part 1 of 2)

This specific entry (part 1 of 2) is about letting one’s cultural, social, and familial environments dictate, directly or indirectly their spousal relationship. If you’re not ready to examine the sources of your thinking about your spousal relationship, then don’t bother wasting both of our times…